Week 3: How do you Remember…what happened on Monday night?

A handful of tokens lay ordered in a line across the movie room counter. Our group members were encouraged to ‘glance’ at them while collecting this week’s handout of discussion questions.

photo And no, one of the items was not this poor, once beautiful functioning iPhone 5c. Do you remember what happened to it?

Our week’s focus on memory was tested as we went round robin at the discussion table sharing something we remembered from the lesson video. We also wrote down any items we could remember from the countertop. When we think about it, it sure does feel like we have a bad memory right?

Do we remember people’s names? Do we remember the pain our friends or family are going through?

Through sharing our earliest memories, we learned that points of pain or pleasure we easily remembered. Do you remember any of the stories we shared Monday night? I’ll give you some clues: being stung by a wasp then falling down stairs off the stage in the rain dropping your action figure in your batman underpants while you ride in the special ambulance to the ER for stitches. Turns out we all had the same memory!

(Sorry if I couldn’t remember a piece from *your story!)


We remember pain. Do you ever wonder if Christ remembers His pain from dying for us on the cross? As we read in I Cor 11, we reminded ourselves that we take communion in remembrance of Him. The pain that He went through to bring us together; to restore us to God; to unite us in Him.

No one likes pain. Don’t let there be pain with the Spirit within in you and your walk with God. Don’t let there be pain and brokenness in your relationships with others. Determine now that there is no pain too great to keep you from harmony with others and unity in the body of Christ. Christ’s body was only broken and torn once…don’t allow brokenness in your body the temple or His body the church. Remember His pain during communion, and continue to break bread in fellowship with our Father and those He allows to move through our lives.


Please remember ~ if you are part of our group, to pray for our Prayer Requests from this past week


Week 2: Do you hear what I hear?

The second time is always better. Our new start time of 8pm respected the overpowering cacophony of noise from Zumba class and allowed some breathing room for our group between work hours and Connect Group commencement.

Additionally, this week we knew where to park, how to avoid towing and even mastered the number code to the pedestrian gate. All important logistics in the attendance of your audience! Though we were down a few numbers, we still had a solid dozen strong and we cozied up in our ‘media center’ to kick off some family-friendly ice breakers.

With contributions from Ms. Abby and Ms. Melissa, a host of listening games were proposed. The initial ‘karaoke-style’ hum-a-line and let the group guess, shockingly, was shot down. (Note the heavy sarcasm.) A modified version, Ms. Bela would hum the lines and the group could guess, was mildly entertained, so we went for it.

Pages of beautifully-hummed song lines later, we had a rousing tied score between Ms. Sarah and Mr. Collin; with a solid point per person among the remaining members. An exciting match it was, indeed. We promptly sent the tie-breaking competitors outside while the ‘Final Jeopardy’ trivia song was determined as a whole. The consensus landed around 80’s TV sitcom, and ultimately decided that Ms. Jenny would whistle the theme song to “Growing Pains.”

Time out …

Did you say whistling? Yes. Whistling is one of those skills, like tree-climbing, whose origin stretches back to childhood. Why does one climb trees? Well, to avoid the stampeding cows of course. Why does one whistle? To avoid losing the game that brother made up, naturally. (True story: “Jenn, you can’t advance in the board game until you pass the whistle challenge space.” “But I don’t know how to whistle.” “Well, I guess you’re going to lose then.” And the rest is history.)

Time in …

So I whistled the song. Or attempted to, between my laughs and smiles; the group did not make this easy on me! We arrived at a clear winner and worked out our final wiggles with a rousing game of musical chairs! (Musical leather theater loungers is more appropriate.)

Having successfully warmed up like any musical instrument, we tuned into the video message which was delivered this week by Jonathan Adrian. During the message, God brought a few poignant questions to mind:

What would the musical score of my life sound like right now?
Is it loud and out of tune?
Is it experiencing bars and measures of rest?
Is there a solo flute singing peacefully?

We were additionally challenged in the Alignment video to be honest about our “personal wars.”

What is chaotic in my world and not playing in harmony?
Can I identify a time that my life when the symphony was playing in tune and in harmony?
Which seasons of my life have I experienced peace and alignment?

Our group spent the remaining time working through these questions, as well as an honest grade on how much we desire to examine the Word of God on a daily basis. Could we cultivate our hunger for Him more?

We all shared a small piece of our world and sphere … musical analogies and soundtrack choices surfaced through the discussion … and the symphony picture really helped give tangible elements in describing the state of our lives, as we are today.

So what’s your song? “Still haven’t found what you’re looking for?” (A la U2.) Let’s tune into the direction of our Conductor, and let Him orchestrate the notes and rhythm of our song.


Football Starts at 1 On Sunday

We know football is out of the question. You won’t ever miss church because of football because the games don’t start until 1pm. The grocery store is open all day, so that’s not it. And you can’t be munching on Chic-Fil-A waffle fries, either (fresh ones, at least). So why do Christians miss church on Sunday morning?

Maybe you think you won’t affect anyone else if you don’t attend church. Maybe you think you have the right and a license to determine yourself above and outside of anyone who feels the need to be there. Would you join a golf club and not play golf there? Are you a member of anything worthy, without actually being active or involved? It’s truly wonderful, knowing you are accepted and grafted into the family of God. Why, then, would we not want to meet in His house?

Google search “why people avoid church” and you will likely find an excuse you have used before: I don’t need a temple to feel connected to God; I’m afraid of being judged; Nobody will notice if I’m not there, anyway. Perhaps its your pride, or maybe a negative experience in your past that keeps you away. These situations are very real and they certainly diminish our motivation to attend church. Regardless, try opening your heart and mind as we address these hang-ups and reconsider the value in attending your church, both for the edifying of the body and spurring of your part within it.

I don’t need a temple to feel the presence of God.

Sure, you can feel God’s presence in other places and different ways, but is that a “too much of God” line you’re throwing out there? Are you putting a quota on Christ?

I understand  this sentiment. Admittedly, I personally am an avid seeker of God’s love at a personal level, and have not always been keen on seeking him through others. Even when I feel the Holy Spirit working in His people, I still prefer to feel an intimate relationship that is direct to me.

The point of attending church and communing with other Christians, then, is not to seek God in other people, but to seek Him with others. What good am I, as a torch-bearer for our Lord, if I stand alone and am not actively pushing back the darkness in His kingdom, with His people?

There is a candle effect that occurs when we worship together. Two flames burn brighter than one. How much easier it is to push back the darkness when we combine our efforts in fellowship. Sometimes we don’t feel the Spirit flickering very brightly within us, but that’s even more of a reason to go!

The Holy Spirit is a constant stream of God’s power and truth, and all it takes is one candle to ignite another. We have a responsibility, then, to attend church because either we can contribute our flames to those who are weak, or we need that spark to reignite our own torch. We share our testimonies, our pains and our struggles so that we may learn from each other and encourage each other to press on.

Rejoice with them that rejoice, and weep with them that weep.” – Romans 12:15

When you see God’s work in other peoples lives, who have dealt or are dealing with the same struggles as you, it helps strengthen your own faith that God is working your life, as well.

Our pasts hurt, we feel shame and we don’t want to be judged.

Sometimes our own guilt and shame cause us to withdraw from fellowship and makes it difficult to face Christ. We may feel ugly, tattered, worn or unworthy. But our beauty is in Christ, who died for our sins so that we may live freely and in boldness of love.

Yes, come and be judged by our Father, who loves you endlessly and will never turn from you. He already knows, was there with you, and died for what we are ashamed to admit or confess to Him.

So we turn to His light and reveal our blemishes and imperfections so we may grow in the yoke of our Lord. The body of believers should not and will not judge. We are not called to be the jury, only God is. No verdict will be determined upon you apart from the one He nailed to the cross. Confess your faults, be corrected, and above all, worship and give praise with His people.

Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.” – Acts 2:38

Peter reminds us that we are PROMISED redemption.

I’m not important. Nobody will care if I don’t go, anyway.

Unfortunately, this statement devalues our meeting at the Lord’s house because it incorrectly assigns the ones who approve our attendance. How do we measure our ROI for church attendance?

In today’s secular world and in Western ideology, perfectionism and the “self” are glorified. As an example, I’m going to pick on my own demographic. Face it, Young Adults, we have already been coined as the “Selfie Generation.” The world will say what it may, but we determine who we are. Our value — as it pertains to our roles within the church, our communities, or any other arena of our lives — is not measured by the perception of others, but by our identity in Christ.

The Lord is the foundation from which you strengthen your role within His kingdom. You are a Christian, first, and being a Christian means you belong to a larger family. You are part of a team of generations of believers, and your role in the Big God Story is as unique in the narrative as you are an individual. You are anointed with a gift and a purpose! Own your calling and forget about what labels society wants to give you.

Having gifts differing according to the grace that is given us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith; Or Ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching; Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that showeth mercy, with cheerfulness.” – Romans 12:6-8

Go, Team, Go!

Yes, we are all in this together. But you don’t just show up to the game, put on the pads and expect to win. In other words, we don’t just show up to church and expect that to satisfy our part, as believers, or to satisfy God’s purpose for our lives.

Individually, we are all responsible to put in the work during the “off season.” Professional athletes train on their own time, in addition to working out as a team. We have to develop and manage our own personal training for God to be glorified in full effect. We should constantly be communicating with God on our own time. We should be looking for ways to glorify Him with believers outside the church. And we should be praising God in corporate prayer, every week.

Bring the practice of walking to God to a live-action march. When we bring our efforts together to push that ball down the field in accordance to The Coach’s game plan — how could we fail?

What shall we then say to these things? For if God be for us, who can be against us?” – Romans 8:31

God is your coach and your biggest fan. He has big plans for you and He wants to be glorified through them, and through you.

And he gave some, apostles; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ:” – Ephesians 4:11-13

Talk about a game plan. (Read Ephesians 4 in full.) No, we are not all called to be the same, but we are all called to come together at the cross for the edifying of the body of Christ. In fact, it is a biblical mandate that we do so.

Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more as ye see the day approaching.” – Hebrews 10:22-25

So, may we save you a seat next week?

Connect Group – Week 1: How To Fail at the Human Knot

The evening kicked off early with a visit to the Sedona Clubhouse leasing office. Due to leasing dates, moving notices and yada yada, our ‘leader’ — no names mentioned, Jenny — had yet to secure the complex media center for our Connect Group’s 8 weeks of meetings. No matter. Did anyone *really* use the public clubhouse space for anything other than scrapbooking, anyway? You might be surprised.

A $100 holding check was left in the capable hands of a leasing assistant, who promptly secured our ‘official’ booking by scribbling aimlessly across 8 weeks of Mondays. Not as official as the booking software Planning Center Resources that Harborside utilizes but, hey, we can’t expect everyone to be that efficient.

A quick peek in to the theater room revealed a man and his daughter camped out watching the US Open. It was only the final match — they wouldn’t be there for long. Just a minor fault in our game plan.

Fast forward 1 hour. It’s 7pm and snacks/supplies are being carried down for set up. You could feel the bass vibrating through the windows before you even reached the outside doors; Zumba class was on and strong in the public lobby space adjoining the media center. Hmm. An interesting menu of activities. Work up a sweat then come align with us in study? On some bizarre level it made sense. However, the spandex and erotic moves of the women did jar ones concentration from Biblical alignment and small group discussion topics. Cue The Parent Trap, “Let’s get together, we can have a swinging time!” This would be an interesting night after all.

The level of noise and accompanying confusion lent itself to an informal arrival hour of typical first week parking and settling in. Newer folks to the community had to learn the gate code system and understand the serious nature of a subtly marked “Tow Away Zone,” i.e. ANY space not marked “Visitor.” Just hand Jenny the $155 in cash now and she’ll go collect your vehicle from a local abandoned junkyard conveniently located at Tampa International Airport.

Regardless, the room was buzzing and group had not even started yet! Naturally, a display of Trader Joe snacks and appetizers lined the counter space. (Have you met Jenny Maass before? You would swear she has stock in the company.)

With so many distractions (combined with the slight panic in Jenny’s mind as group facilitator), the only way to break ice, to drown out the pulsating Zumba music and “get together” was to — literally and physically — execute the Human Knot. Have you tried to untie a Human Knot before? Its great for babysitting and camps. It didn’t end well.

So the night started off about as awkward as a newborn giraffe. A punctual segue to our topic. Eventually we got our legs under us, we got it together, we plugged in and were ready to connect.

Alignment Connect Group

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Harborside Christian Church creates a church wide study each fall. This year’s course is called Alignment. For 8 weeks the church will walk through the series on Sunday mornings, as a corporate body, while Connect Groups meet during the week to study offline and connect on a more personal level.

Harborside Young Adults have a number of Connect Groups meeting — mine being one of them. At 17 members, we’re not exactly a “small group,” but I cannot deny that God has handpicked these individuals to grow together in this arena. During the next 8 weeks, visit us for updates, study notes, feedback, testimonies, personal goals and whatever else The Spirit compels us to share. Let’s connect and align our lives for the effective building of the body of Christ!

– Thank you, and God bless you –